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What is NOT and what IS SELF LOVE

What is NOT self-love

Many people think they love themselves, but what we feel is rather the liking of self.

When you manage to lose a few kilos, when you do your hair and make up and look great – you like yourself.

When you achieve something big – you like yourself.

When you help another person – you like yourself.

But what when the opposite happens?

If you put on a few kilos, would you still look in the mirror with the love and appreciation? Do you like yourself even when your hair is messy and you got a few pimples on your face?

Or what when you acted really mean to somebody – do you still like yourself then?

What we often take for self-love is a conditional liking of the person we are.

Instead of pure love, we judge ourselves. If you we do something right, we reward ourselves with love. But when we do something bad, we punish ourselves by taking that love away. We become the harshest punisher in our lives.


True love in an unconditional feeling of love, appreciation and acceptance for yourself. What does unconditional mean? That no matter what you do, you always love yourself with the same strength.

Now I know it might make sense when you read it, but you might be wondering – how do you get to that point? How can you “get” it?

I found these steps to be helpful in my journey towards self-love:

1. Become aware of your inner voice

First thing you need to do is be AWARE how you treat yourself. We all talk to ourselves in our minds, but we are not always fully conscious of that voice.

So, the first step is to become conscious of your inner voice. Pay attention to what it’s saying.

Notice what you tell yourself most often. What do you say when you do something amazing, and what when you fail.

Here are a few situations in which you should keep awareness of your inner voice:

When you wake up and look in the mirror

When somebody is mean to you

When you are mean to someone

When you act from a place of anger.

When you see a person in need but you keep walking without helping them

When you put on weight

When you make a mistake at work

When you eat some unhealthy food

When you skip your work-out session

When you lie to somebody

When you make someone cry

When you feel lazy

When you rest

Are you still loving and caring towards yourself in all these moment?

If not .....

2. Take control of your inner voice

The things you hear in your head now have been there your whole life. You might have not paid attention to it before – in this case you might be shocked to hear some of things you say to yourself.

But the truth is, that you’ve been feeding yourself these messages for years. And the more we hear something, the more we believe in it. Which means that all those negative things you say to yourself have become your strongly held beliefs.

the good news is that today you can change them.

Now that you are aware of your inner voice, next time you catch yourself saying something not nice to yourself, make a pause without judgement, and say “cancel, cancel”. As you reprogram yourself and feed your mind with positive thoughts about yourself . This new thoughts will sends a message to your subconscious mind to ignore what you just thought. and program it to what you want.

If you need help, I am here for you to help you, bringing awareness into your life , activating that awareness inside yourself and with my teachings and guidance I will give you the tools you need to HEAL THE HEALER INSIDE YOU!

I offer you a complementary consultation. Contact me at

With lots of love and gratitude

Heidi Morrison

Healing the Healer Inside You


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